Fissures healed but anus is raw and stings

I’ve healed my fissures about six weeks ago (confirmed by the colorectal surgeon) but mentioned I feel a ripping/tearing feeling randomly when moving throughout my anus at times, almost as if it’s dry and chafed or chapped. He said he doesn’t see anything and it’s likely in my head. I had switched entirely to baby wipes and even though they’re the water-based, non-alcohol ones from pampers I feel it stripped the mucosa and dried my anus out big time, alongside keeping stool soft with miralax to where stool was so soft it would fall out basically without much form to it. I was using Vaseline 24/7 (with a good bit applied before exercise and pooping, but have tried to stop both which saw my issue get worse) and recently have began dialing back the use of the miralax some and not wearing Vaseline 24/7 but am wondering if that was a mistake because of how raw and stingy I feel down there. If I so much as touch the area with toilet paper to dab dry it feels like I’m creating little micro tears, doesn’t matter how hard or soft I go. I hear the area should stay dry but am unsure how to do that if touching it causes issues, though I’ve also heard you can over clean, under clean, and 100 other possibilities. I even use a bidet now and it doesn’t seem to help. Thoughts? I thought maybe shaving down there was my issue but it’s gotten worse since I stopped shaving so I’ve ruled that out as the issue for sure