Do you actually enjoy dating?

Somewhere between the disposable dating culture, the ghosting and flaking epidemic, greedy dating apps that try to keep you paying and playing as long as possible, peoples general aversion to connecting offline and chatting to strangers, all the hoops you have to jump through to prove you’re a decent human being and not a psycho like the last guy, all the time wasters, the liars, the nutcases, the the ones with crazy exes, the secret single mums, the bimbos, the passenger princesses,  the fact that at any moment you can and will be dropped like a hot coal for the smallest faux pas or even a misinterpret comment, the pressure to be authentic and interesting but not too weird but not too boring, the balancing act of not appearing too eager and desperate or too nonchalant, and somehow knowing exactly what she's wanting even though she doesn't really communicate it, intuitively understanding how to please them sexually because talking about it isn't sexy

It’s easy to find it feeling more like a game of minesweeper than anything else

I just don't find it to be much fun

Even if I meet someone I think is great and I feel like my ship has finally come in, in the back of my mind I'm convinced it's just a matter of time until it sinks because it always has

Showing resentment, bitterness etc only hurts your chances of meeting anyone of course.

I guess the only real way forward is just to be the best version of your true self and while you won't be most people's cup of prune juice, eventually you'll find someone who appreciates it, though you might be searching for a while

I also have to force myself to go out to meet people even though I don't enjoy it, otherwise I would be totally reliant on dating apps (let's be honest the chances of meeting someone single and attractive through sport or a hobby is slim)

Do you actually enjoy dating?

How do you keep it feeling fun?