Trying to stay on decent terms with my Trump-supporting parents...what to do?
EDIT: Thank you for all your compassionate and thoughtful responses! I'm blown away! I can't respond to each and every one right now, but I've read them all. This gives me hope!!
With respect to anyone who disagrees, I'm specifically looking for advice on this from people who do not support Trump.
My (F35) parents (late 60s) are both very Christian and have voted for Trump 3X now. I've always felt icky about it, even in 2016 when I myself was still very religious as well as politically conservative; I couldn't bring myself to vote for him then and was baffled by how many Christians did at the time. Now I'm a non-religious agnostic liberal, so a lot has changed to bring my parents and me to very different places in terms of core values.
Over the past few years I've decided not to talk about politics with them. Two years ago was the last time I tried. Abortion came up with my mom and it went badly. I tried to explain my stance, and she started sobbing and steam rolled me about how it's murder. I realized at that point that I just couldn't have meaningful conversations with her without it negatively affecting our relationship.
Regardless, my mom still makes all sort of comments about her views, especially when I visit, so I know where she stands on most things. I know both my parents are happy about Trump getting elected, especially my mom. She doesn't love Trump as a person, but she thinks he's "not that bad" and that Biden is "just as corrupt." She's also psyched about the Supreme Court situation and a number of his intended plans. My dad doesn't say much and kind of follows her lead.
I just spoke with her today for the first time since the results came in. We studiously avoided any mention of the election, outside of a brief positive comment she made about RFK. But I feel very sad and broken about our relationship. It's not so much her voting for Trump this time around; she's already done it 2x before. It's just that now her dream is likely going to become a reality, and seeing how excited she is about it breaks my heart. The hypocrisy of her being a Christian and voting for someone who's in my mind a monster is also heartbreaking to me. My feelings of respect and closeness for her have taken a big hit.
I don't wish to cut off any of my family because of who they voted for, so I'm not looking for that kind of advice. I'm just wondering how people in my shoes are approaching these relationships. Are you just pretending like it never happened to keep the peace, and dealing with the emotions on your own/in therapy? Do you feel like talking about it has / would help these relationships in any substantial way? I've already felt our closeness diminish since I de-converted, as I've kept a lot of personal stuff from both my parents since I started dating women (which she doesn't know about), having sex, and generally not believing in God, among other things. Maybe this is just another thing that we ignore for the sake of peace.
TLDR: Not sure how to proceed with my Trump-supporting parents. I want to keep the peace and not cut them off, but I do feel like this election has caused an emotional rift inside me.