Are non-abusive relationships a myth?

Hi everyone,

I’m a woman in my mid-20s, and I have a very personal question for those who have been in long-term committed relationships or marriages for a while. I’d love your honest input.

Do relationships like this actually exist:

  • No cheating of any kind (emotional, online, or physical)?
  • No physical or verbal abuse (no yelling, no name-calling, no matter the circumstances—even if someone is drunk or angry, they’ve never crossed these boundaries)?
  • Partner actually validates your feelings and supports you through anything no matter what and stays with you through thick and thin.
  • Partner has a lot of patience with you and is not "two-faced" he does it out of love, not just because he must do it.

I’m asking because I was raised with the mindset that “as long as he doesn’t beat you, he’s a good guy.” But as I’ve grown older, I’ve started to question whether I should aim for something better—or if what I’m envisioning is just an unrealistic ideal.

If you’re comfortable sharing, I’d also love to know how long you’ve been with your partner as that adds valuable context to your perspective.

Thanks in advance for your thoughts and experiences! ❤️