My boyfriend also has hs, but is undiagnosed, and he really just hurt my feelings.

He gets flares on basically every place you can get them, except his groin, but you can see scars where he used to get them there. He gets them a lot on his armpits currently. I feel like mine change locations once in awhile. I use to get a lot under my arm, I've always got them on my groin and inner thighs, and that's where they mostly are now.

We're both having flare ups right now. He doesn't know he has hs but I've given him some of my clindamycin and told him it will help his "bumps". I guess we've never actually discussed what it is, i just assumed he could tell we have the same issue. You know how some men just refuse to go to the doctor lol.

So we were getting ready for bed and i had a bad flare on my leg, i haven't had one this bad since before i met him because i always apply clindamycin at the first sign of a bump and it usually clears. But we've been swimming alot so i just assumed it washed it off and isn't working right. So this one got to the point where it was about to pop and he made a comment "ew what is that, an std? Maybe you should shower more and you wouldn't have pimples on you." I shower every day.

I literally wanted to fucking cry. I said "you gets them too. It's not an std it's an auto immune disease"

He said "no i dont. I get skin tags, not those".

You guys. Ive literally watched his burst open before and clean them for him. So to deny he has any was just like wtf. My feelings were so hurt i didnt know what else to say. We were both drinking because we were swimming and grilling. We've been together 2 years and i just got to the point where i feel like i can have sex with the lights on and like he wasnt gonna judge my body. Now i just want to be covered up again. I didn't notice he had it until we were dating for about 6 months. And i thought it was cool cause i felt like i wouldn't be judged or get any of the std jokes or suspicions. I've always hid my hs from partners. And once i finally felt comfortable i feel like i need to hide again. I dont know what to do. Idk if i should even say anything today since we were drunk last night. I dont know if he was joking or being serious. Idk im kinda just venting but i kind of want advice and this is the only place where people would care or understand.