Preserving women's rights in the context of family planning

Lots of discussion on this sub recently around how to reverse the trend of falling birth rates. An underlying sentiment that seems to pop up over and over again is the idea that women having more access and opportunity for autonomy, education and independence leads to lower birth rates. The argument is centered around the idea that policy changes do not work, but we need to "encourage" women to be OK with having tons of babies and giving up a career. "Things were better in the 50s when only men were the breadwinners" seems to pop up A LOT

There has to be a middle ground here, where we can preserve the incredible strides the womens rights movement has taken over the course of the past 100 years while encouraging more women (and men!) to take family planning seriously via policy, healthcare access and subsidies. Interested to see people's thoughts on what can be done within this framework of society that is quite frankly NOT going to change without insane oppression.