I Want My Boyfriend to Cut Ties with His Friends

From the very beginning of our relationship, I knew that his friends didn’t like me that much. Siguro, yes, babatiin nila ako kapag kaharap ako, pero pag nakatalikod, they’re the type of people who will talk badly about you behind your back. They’re also well-known to be problematic. Tho my boyfriend is an exception, he’s the silent type who doesn’t like problems at all.

Minsan nga napapaisip ako paano siya napasama sa friend group na ganun, kasi total opposite siya ng friends niya. But as I got to know him more, I realized he’s introverted and mostly talks only to people who approach him first. Kaya siguro nag-settle siya sa ganung friends, kasi sila lang yung pumansin at nag-entertain sa kanya from the beginning. I know finding new friends isn’t easy for him, kaya I’ve really been trying to understand him and his friends, until they crossed the line.

Wala naman sa akin kung ayaw nila sa akin. I don’t need them to like me, and I don’t care if they don’t. But things changed when I found out about everything they’ve been saying behind my back after I got access to my boyfriend’s social media account. They would ship him with a girl who’s part of their circle, even though they know he’s already in a relationship with me. They would sometimes say that he should choose her over me, and they’d often get upset whenever he couldn’t join their hangouts because he was with me. May nabasa rin ako where they criticized how I dress.

I told my boyfriend about it. Ilang beses ko na rin siyang inaway dahil dun. But sometimes, naiisip ko, masama bang i-wish na iwan niya yung mga kaibigan niya for me? Para sa ikakatahimik ng relasyon namin? Because ever since I found out that they were shipping him with one of their female friends, I’ve been paranoid every time they have hangouts or drinking sessions.

Until now, he’s still hanging out with them, and I don’t know... minsan napapagod na lang akong magsalita at magalit sa mga desisyon niya at mga gagawin niya. Minsan, ayoko na lang ipaglaban kung anong nararamdaman ko towards his friends because I’ve told him many times how painful it is to be disrespected like that. When I told him to leave their circle, he just answered that they were there for him when I wasn’t in his life yet, so he said it’s not that easy. The things his friends did are just a few of many.