Men saying they don’t want a serious relationship then act like they are interested in a future

I 35F have met and gone out w a 43M. He is separated not yet officially divorced and was very upfront. He does not still live with her. They won’t be officially divorced for another 4 months. We have seen each other 5 or so times and have slept together on two separate nights. One night I initiate plans and he agrees then tells me he can’t offer me a serious relationship bc he has trust issues. But then he also -calls me pet names -tells me he’s gonna take me to Ecuador (where he is from) in a playful way but still -tells me enjoys being in bed w me -thinks I’m a good person -told me if he did ever want to be w someone again I would be the type of person -paid for dates we have went on

Basically should am I wasting my time and emotions on this man? I feel like he told me one thing but is treating me another way. It’s been so long since I’ve been in this phase of dating. First time dating since a 9 year relationship.