Very few people out there actually want an "equal partner "

This term gets thrown a lot around in female spaces on reddit , where they lament the fact that there aren't enough men who want to put in equal effort across all boards when it comes to a relationship . They simulatenously claim that most women want an "equal partner " whilst claiming that most men are looking for "bangmaids".

I don't think this is actually true . Very few women are out there who view relationships in an egalitarian manner completely without holding onto some patriarchal courtesies . Very few women are actually willing to go half and half in terms of finances in a relationship (assuming they're in the same SE bracket ). But they may still expect their partners to pull half their weight in other aspects of the relationship (namely housework ).

On the other hand i can see the arguments for men wanting bangmaids , as there are men out there who don't want to fully financially provide for a relationship but expect the woman to be traditional .

There are actually very few individuals out there who can truly pull their weights in every department of a relationship . Whether it be household related or financially related .

But i think women out there genuinely do fantasise the "idea" of an equal partner while at the same time enjoying the liberties of benevolent sexism when it comes to dating