AIO? Friend is behaving terribly

Friend of 20 years got out of prison 4 months ago. I see him about once a month. I’m in college so the only way I can spend time with him is if I’m studying while we hang.

He’s home all day so I offered to take him to Panera, buy him some food, and suggested he grab a book to read since I’d be studying. He said he couldn’t be in a public place with kids. So I suggested a bar. He thought that was stupid but agreed.

When I went to pick him up he criticized my driving, and told me he didn’t want to go to a bar afterall because he’d be bored. I suggested grabbing a book but he said no. I was hurt because I went out of my way to spend time with him and he had agreed to these plans days ago. Then he asked if I could drive him to Aldi’s—and was surprised that I didn’t have a bag or a quarter for a cart. Like…why am I responsible for this?

I was silent after this. I was annoyed.

When I dropped him off at his mother’s home, I backed up so he wouldn’t have to open the car door and step into the snow. I misjudged the driveway and there was snow—which he criticized me for.

I’m friends with his mom so we went inside and when she asked me what was wrong, I explained. I was so upset I had to walk out.

My friend hasn’t texted to apologize and idk if he will. He seemed very entitled and way too comfortable criticizing me. I think he sees me as being too emotional and reactive.

Here’s where my heart gets it twisted—I can’t appreciate how traumatic both prison and post-prison life has been. Idk how much slack I should give.

I’m also embarrassed that I got upset 😬