Experiences with homophobia/transphobia while serving?

I'm curious to hear other people's experiences with homophobia and transphobia while working FOH. I've left food service (hopefully for good) and have been reflecting on my experiences at the last restaurant I was at re:guests' perception of my gender. For context I ID as nonbinary/butch lesbian and in public don't really consistently pass as any particular gender. At work because of wearing an apron and not binding I was generally assumed to be a masculine woman and I feel like certain guests treated me differently because of it.

No one ever said anything directly to me but I would often get bizarrely standoffish people (often older folks) and comparing my tips to other servers I was making a fair bit less as a percentage of my sales even compared to the less experienced servers who I trained. Everyone else I worked with in FOH were straight, gender conforming and the women were pretty feminine nails done hair done makeup etc. I'd also notice a difference on days where I would wear makeup or otherwise look more feminine. Better tips and fewer weird interactions. This became more pronounced when the restaurant changed from an autograt on all tables to none, everyone took a hit to their tips but mine decreased significantly more than my straight/gender conforming coworkers.

Anyone else have experiences like this? Most of the trans people I know in kitchens stick to BOH and thus have a different set of issues wrt gender and sexuality so I don't have anyone else to talk to about it.