Does every man do this?!?!??

My 22-year-old boyfriend of three years recently confessed to having a porn addiction and admitted he gets off to pictures of our female friends. I’m 23, and I’m torn between breaking up or staying with him.

A few days ago, he broke down crying, telling me how terrible he felt and that he knows he "fucked up." It’s not just our female friends—he also admitted to doing this with photos of his ex-girlfriend and even a close friend of mine he’s only met once or twice. I love him deeply and was initially willing to support him through his addiction, but hearing about the Instagram pictures shattered me.

Since then, I’ve been going back and forth on what to do. My love for him makes me want to be there during this difficult time, but I can’t help feeling incredibly insecure. I keep comparing myself to these girls, thinking about how my body doesn’t look like theirs. I replay every interaction he’s had with them in my mind, even though he’s never flirted, acted inappropriately, or shown any obvious attraction. I appreciate his honesty, but now that I know, it’s hard not to wonder which of my friends he might be fantasizing about in the future.

He told me he’s been sober from porn for a week, deleted Instagram, and wants to quit entirely. We agreed to take some time apart, and he’s planning to start counseling. He even told his parents everything. I’ve read that many men fantasize about female friends, and I know it’s normal for people to have fantasies—I’m not trying to control his thoughts. But even though he was honest, part of me wishes he hadn’t told me about the specific girls.

I don’t know what to do. I’ve considered couples counseling, but I’m struggling to see a future where I won’t be questioning his thoughts and actions. How do I move forward from this? Should I stay and support him, or is this a sign to walk away?