White people vastly overestimate their own charm.

They think they can win us over as if we don't see through them and if we don't like them then tell us "your anger is your problem". They see us as characters rather than people and get annoyed when we don't act the role.

Simpletons get to coast through life believing the just world fallacy and do mental gymnastics to avoid recognizing their own privilege. Its like the Matrix. The NPCs pop blue pills like tic tacs and treat us like crazy ones for seeing reality. Most BIPOC have a very vivid memory of the time a red pill was forced down their throat or no memory at all because thats the way their life always was.

Even if they do acknowledge the elephant in the room rather than the usual purse their lips and break eye contact it's still on their terms. The misconception seems to be treating our trauma as something petty that "ok you had a bad experience in the past but not everyone is like that and i'll prove it to you".

Maybe because i'm also an introvert (or ambivert) i hate people who make it their mission in life to convert you or take responsibility for the moods of others. Any positive reaction is taken as acceptance and any negative is taken as a challenge. Just leave me alone instead of making me your project/trophy for your own ego.

Motherfuckers act like car salesman. Anytime they encounter someone who is "difficult" they implement people skills. The fake smile, love bombing, disarming kindness, blowing smoke up your ass, invasive questions etc.

When you come from privilege, equality looks like oppression. They're used to being fawned over for even the most mediocre action (or just existing) and feel entitled to treatment no BIPOC gets. They'll throw a tantrum because they can't understand why something that's always worked for them before isn't working this time.

If you want to communicate with upper class white people you have to become fluent in passive aggression and fake niceness. They view us as dogs and feel entitled to affection. Many times they've abused me then the next time we come face to face smiled upbeatly said "Hi leon385" as if nothing had happened. It was incredibly weird. Were they really expecting me to be pleased to see them. Toxic positivity.

How do you all deal with it?